Welcome everyone!!! My name is Amber Bell and I first want to say how sorry I am for the loss of your Angel(s). I understand the multitude of emotions this journey of loss creates in your heart and lives.
After wanting, praying, longing and aching to be a mother for longer then I could remember, I became pregnant on my husband's (Kendall) and I's 1st Wedding Anniversary. We were SO EXCITED and made SO MANY plans. Tragically, our son, Micah, was born still after his heart stopped beating at 24weeks on February 6, 2014 (2 days before my 34th birthday). 3 months later, I became pregnant again only to miscarry our daughter, Alison, at 5weeks3day on May 21, 2014.
Kendall and I took an entire year off from Trying To Conceive to see if we could figure out why we were losing our babies. After many medical tests nothing was found. We were given the green light to try again and we conceived during my 2nd cycle. I began spotting then bleeding during week 5. I received several ultrasounds that showed I was pregnant with twins. Although the twins were measuring smaller then they should have, they both had strong heartbeats. Then on August 8, 2015 tragically, I passed our daughter Heidi, at 7weeks6days. I had an ultrasound the following morning that showed that our son, Noah, was still inside me, but his heart had stopped. I was so devastated to learn that I had lost all 4 of our babies now.
More tests finally found that I have a Septate Uterus (a thick wall of bloodless tissue dividing my uterus into 2 sections). A Septate Uterus causes early miscarriage if a baby (like Alison, Heidi and Noah) attaches to the wall because the baby will be unable to get the blood and nutrients needed to grow and live. Septate Uterus can cause late term (like Micah) because the baby has less room to grow. This deformity can easily be fixed with a simple, non invasive surgery with minimal recovery time. Although, it can be fixed, Kendall and I have decided that we a finished with Trying To Conceive and are working on growing our family through fostering and adoption.
Remembering Our Little Ones Quilt (ROLO Quilt) was inspired by the Little Ones I lost and the way too-many other babies lost between conception and their 1st birthday. My wish for these quilts are that they will stand as a witness and a voice for the cause of Pregnancy And Infant Loss (PAIL). Not only do the families and loved ones lose our babies and all of their future, we lose the ability to talk to others about our babies. Losing a baby is a taboo subject and is not appropriate to talk about in public. WE ARE MOTHERS!!!! WE ARE FATHERS!!!! WE ARE SIBLINGS!!! WE ARE FAMILY!!!! WE HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO LOVE, MISS, AND TALK ABOUT OUR BABIES!!! I pray that this project speaks out about PAIL so families in the future won't have to grieve, love and miss their Angels in silence.
The most important reason I am doing this project though is, is that I want these Little Ones to ALWAYS be celebrated and remembered!!!! Every child, no matter how small or what age, deserves to be remembered. These babies had beating hearts. These babies lived, even if it was just in the womb. Their life and legacy needs to carry on.